Almost Brown

A Memoir

About the Book

An award-winning writer retraces her dysfunctional, biracial, globe-trotting family’s journey as she reckons with ethnicity and belonging, diversity and race, and the complexities of life within a multicultural household.

Almost Brown is that rarest of things: a memoir that is both deeply intimate and intellectually ambitious.”—Susan Orlean, author of The Library Book

Charlotte Gill’s father is Indian. Her mother is English. They meet in 1960s London when the world is not quite ready for interracial love. Their union results in a total meltdown of familial relations, a lot of immigration paperwork, and three children, all in varying shades of tan. Together they set off on a journey from the United Kingdom to Canada to the United States in an elusive pursuit of life, liberty, and happiness—a dream that eventually tears them apart.

Almost Brown is an exploration of diasporic intermingling involving two eccentric parents from worlds apart and their half-brown children as they experience the paradoxes and conundrums of life as it’s lived between race checkboxes. Their intercultural experiment features turbans and tube socks, chana masala and Cherry Coke. Over time, Gill’s parents drift apart because they just aren’t compatible. But as she too finds herself distancing from her father—Why is she embarrassed to walk down the street with him and not her mom?—she doesn’t know if it’s because of his personality or his race. Is this her own unconscious bias favoring one parent over the other in the racial tug-of-war that plagues our society? Almost Brown looks for answers to questions shared by many mixed-race people: What am I? What does it mean to be a person of color when the concept is a societal invention and really only applies halfway if you are half white? Eventually, after years of silence, Gill and her father reclaim a space for forgiveness and love.

In a funny, turbulent, and ultimately heartwarming story, Gill examines the brilliant messiness of ancestry, “diversity,” and the idea of “race,” a historical concept that still informs our beliefs about ethnicity today.
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Praise for Almost Brown

Almost Brown is that rarest of things: a memoir that is both deeply intimate and intellectually ambitious. It fearlessly examines race and the issue of belonging, and at the same time is a tender, touching, often very funny tale of growing up and finding your way.”—Susan Orlean, author of The Library Book

“What a graceful, textured world Gill gives us, living and growing between cultures, colors, and . . . the realization that we must love ourselves whole.”—Carmen Rita Wong, author of Why Didn’t You Tell Me?

“Gill fearlessly examines the complexities and subtleties of growing up mixed-race, offering an exploration of identity and belonging that is beyond skin tone and nationality, and a sharply observed commentary on one’s own privilege and bias. Intimate, moving, and whip-smart, Almost Brown dazzles with humor and heart.”—Ayelet Tsabari, author of The Art of Leaving

“With humor and insight, Gill traces the quicksand of assimilation, her immigrant parents’ dogged pursuit of the American Dream, and the job uniquely left to first-generation children to rediscover the homeland they’ve never known. . . . A joyful read of memory and forgiveness.”—Hafizah Augustus Geter, author of The Black Period
 
“This glorious story kept me up at night, pondering everyone’s ‘ancestral stew’ and Kismet as the wondrous origins—and future—of our species. Exquisitely written, deeply researched, and tenderly observed, this is memoir at its finest.”—Plum Johnson, author of They Left Us Everything

“Brilliantly observed and astute with sharp and tender character descriptions, Almost Brown is a gorgeous telling of a complicated family history and an essential exploration of race and belonging. Here is a memoir teeming with abundant heart, truth, and grace, as narrated to us by an expert writer with dazzling vision.”—Lindsay Wong, author of The Woo-Woo

“Beautifully written and appropriately irreducible, this book hit me in all sorts of funny-tender spots. Through immersive investigation and sharp social commentary, Gill overturns humanist platitudes and dicey purisms while recognizing the ongoing power of colonial hierarchies and racial arrangements. . . . A truly moving and insightful book.”—Kyo Maclear, author of Birds Art Life

“Written with an eye for detail and character, Almost Brown is a moving examination of family, history, and the connections that endure. . . . [Young adults] will relate to Gill’s thoughtful approach to identity in a society that expects easy answers.”Booklist

“Moving . . . Readers should expect to have their heartstrings tugged.”Publishers Weekly
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Excerpt

Almost Brown

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A Little Circle


My father’s skin is the color of a medium-­roasted coffee bean. His eyes are so dark you can’t tell the pupils from the irises. His hair was once nearly black, but now it’s white—­at least it is when he doesn’t get around to coloring it. He disguises his gray from time to time at a salon he’s been visiting for at least a couple of decades. We probably share the same dye shade—­espresso brown, according to my drugstore box.

He has half-­moons of darker pigmentation beneath his eyes, which are slightly puffy about the upper lids and slightly downturned at the outer corners. Many of us in the family share this trait, and if we aren’t smiling in photos, we tend to look sleepy, sad, or both, even if we’re having the best time. My dad has a pleasingly round face, also a common family feature, inherited from my grandmother. His family is Sikh, although he isn’t what I’d call religious. And neither am I, which pleases him immensely, especially since my mother has become more churchgoing with time. In this way, if not elsewhere, I’m a fulfillment of his design.

He was born in Punjab, India, and has lived on four continents, but somehow he ended up in South Texas. He lives in McAllen, a city known for its Customs and Border Patrol detention facilities and gargantuan public library fashioned from an abandoned Walmart. Wherever he goes, people still call him “Dr. Gill.” Once a physician, always a physician.

He’s also an Anglophile. For years, he lived in the United Kingdom. It’s where he trained to be a surgeon. He still loves marmalade and orange pekoe tea and table manners and the Queen’s English and generally most kinds of fusty British pomp except the royal family, whom he quietly dislikes. He sprinkles his sentences with “bloody well” and “bloody hell” when he’s grumpy. He still defends Great Britain as the height of civilized achievement, which I sometimes think is a form of internalized prejudice.

For a man born in the Hindenburg era, he’s impressively adept with technology. He owns the latest iPhone, and his ringtone is bonging church bells—­a strange choice for a Sikh person, one of his many fascinating contradictions. When his phone rings, he wrangles it out of his pocket, glances down at the screen, and usually decides to ignore it, at least when I’m around. He’s a competent driver with no plans to give up his license, at least not without a fight. He wore glasses from middle age until just recently, when he had his cataracts removed and his vision corrected with laser surgery. He has good white teeth, mostly his own, which have always been the animating feature of his face when he smiles. He can go from looking hard and brooding to effervescently playful in an eyeblink.

My father is an eighty-­six-­year-­old who has now spent more time as a bachelor than he ever did a married man. He celebrated his eightieth birthday twice; the first time he forgot he was only seventy-­nine. Or he claims he forgot. No one loves the twinkle of a good party like he does, except maybe me, if the moment is right.

My dad shuffles into the living room wearing his voluminous bathrobe. He says he had a wretched sleep, that’s why he woke up so late, even though I know perfectly well what time he returned last night from his favorite bar and can guess how many Bollywood movies he started into before dawn.

“What time did you get back?” I ask, the kind of question he might have had for me back in my days of youthful mayhem.

“Oh,” he says, “not too late,” which is the type of shady reply I would have given back then also.

He bumps his way between the coffee table and the sofa, then eases himself down. He rummages for the TV remote among the cushions while reminding me of his virtuously early mornings back when he still worked in hospitals. Our memories diverge on this and other things, but I don’t mention it.

I’m slouched across the love seat with my laptop open. He sits in the middle of the big sofa. He flicks on the giant flat-­screen TV, and we watch together for a while. Often, it’s some aristocratically slow sporting event like cricket or golf. Either that or the news. My dad likes the unfettered punditry of American broadcast journalism, the more inflamed the propaganda the better. The TV is his campfire, a loud one, even though he can still hear perfectly well.

Lazy afternoon light beams through the living room windows. I hear the letter carrier shove the mail through the slot, and then it lands heavily on the foyer floor. My dad channel surfs at dizzying speeds. His TV pumps out almost every satellite signal transmitted between space and the earth. We skip over ads for pharmaceuticals featuring actors enjoying their vitality and ads for ambulance-­chasing lawyers engaged in class-­action suits. It’s as if he’s looking for something rare and particular that is nowhere to be found.

I say, “Wouldn’t it be better for your biorhythms or whatever to go to bed, you know, at a more normal human hour?” It’s a refrain he hears often from other well-­meaning relatives, all our comments about his upside-­down schedule.

My dad’s face contracts into a scowl. He waves at the air between us to express his opinion about my attitude. I’ve seen this gesture a thousand times over the years, and I still can’t decide if he’s doing it for his relief or my entertainment—­maybe a little of both. I love it when he acts as if I’m driving him around the bend. I laugh, he shakes his head, and then we go back to surfing together.

A little later, he disappears into his bedroom, and then he emerges wearing beige medical scrubs. He owns many sets in several colors, and he often wears them to his physical therapy appointments as ersatz athletic apparel, since he owns no articles of gym clothing, at least none that were made in this century.

“I don’t think brown looks good on me,” he says.

“It doesn’t look good on me, either,” I reply.

He sinks down on the sofa to apply sneakers to feet. He used to have an impressive collection of well-­made leather shoes, but podiatric troubles have reduced him to a single pair of slide-­ons that give him a kind of accidental gentleman-­hipster cool. He puts these on with a long shoehorn he keeps beneath the coffee table. Then he takes his blood pressure. The wrist cuff beeps and deflates.

“Do you want me to drive you?”

“No, no,” he says, frowning, swatting me away. “Don’t worry about it.” He’s been going to therapy to work on his leg strength lately. Mobility and independence go hand in hand—­this reality isn’t lost on him. One wipeout in the shower, and that’s it, the end of his ability to live as he pleases. But he never lets me anywhere near the clinic, not even to run errands in the neighborhood while he’s inside.

Now he’s running late, as always, I can tell from his tone, and the prospect of my company is just another obstacle that threatens to slow him down. He pockets his iPhone and keys then shuffles out through the kitchen to the garage, where I hear the door lift and his car engine cough to life. Normally, if there’s an appointment with the dentist or the rheumatologist that he’d rather avoid, he’ll blow it off. My semi-­informed guess is that his therapist is an attractive, attentive woman upon whom he has a mild crush.

My dad owns a modest unit in a brick-­and-­terra-­cotta subdivision—­an atypical surgeon’s retirement—­with newspapers piled up on the doorstep and at least a few of the lightbulbs burned out. His house was built in the eighties and hardly anything has been renovated since then. There’s an atrium painted spumoni green. The bathrooms, mine and his, feature gold taps with clear acrylic knobs cut to resemble diamonds.

I wait until he’s gone to tidy up, otherwise he tells me not to do it, but only half-­heartedly. I start in the living room, which is the biggest enigma, a bafflement of fatherly detritus. He spends plenty of time in here, and it has accumulated a snow of his belongings, none of which seems to have proper stowage.

The glass coffee table is covered on the westerly end with a library of orange prescription bottles and Ayurvedic remedies sent to him in the mail by his sisters. A lot of it is expired or untouched, but still, he won’t allow me to dispose of any of these, as if it is a little shrine to his personal medical adventures. On the other end, there is a rampart of magazines, a medical journal or two, and sometimes the odd book that he says I should read, but that he has not read himself. In between there is evidence of snacking—­a paper towel stained with a cup ring, a plate with a few flakes of samosa pastry, and a tiny plastic pot of tamarind chutney. Usually there’s a bowl of Lindor chocolates somewhere in this vicinity, even though he’s the only person I know in the world who doesn’t like chocolate. I wonder who it’s there for—­maybe me.

About the Author

Charlotte Gill
Charlotte Gill is a bestselling and award-winning writer of fiction and narrative nonfiction. Ladykiller, her first book, was the recipient of the Danuta Gleed Literary Award for short fiction. Eating Dirt, a tree-planting memoir, was a #1 national bestseller in Canada. Her work has appeared in Vogue and Hazlitt. Gill teaches writing in the MFA program in creative nonfiction at the University of King’s College and is the Rogers Communications Chair of Literary Journalism at the Banff Centre for Arts and Creativity. She lives in British Columbia, Canada. More by Charlotte Gill
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